Things are hard at the moment.
I thought it might be helpful, not only for me but for others, to ask this question:-
What’s the best advice you’ve had regarding your mental health?
What sticks in your mind; something you reflect on, something that helps you when times get rough?
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For me, it’s things I was taught at a M i n d f u l n e s s course ( I will do a post about that soon . . . honest guv’na).
– The first thing is this: A thought is a thought. It doesn’t make it reality just because you have thought it. Something bad isn’t going to happen just because you have had the thought – it doesn’t mean it will come true or it’s real.
– The next thing is: Slow. Things. Down. An example of this; I had been off work for 16 months. I had to go to a meeting with the big boss, a Doctor, and HR. I used a Mindfulness technique to slow everything down, stop catastrophic thoughts and get to the meeting.
So instead of “ohmygodIcantcopewiththismeeting,whatdoesitmean,whatifIcan’tevergetbacktoworkI’lllosemyjobwewon’thaveanymoney. . . .” Using Mindfulness, I took everything in t i n y steps, depersonalising everything and describing things factually, without using emotion.
It now went like this:
I am now awake.
I am using my leg muscles to walk to a different room.
I am undressing to step under something that sprinkles liquid.
I am standing under something that sprays liquid on me.
The liquid is hot.
I am using a gel-like substance to wash my body.
It feels cold when I initially put it on my body.
I am turning off the thing that sprays liquid on me.
I am using a large piece of cloth to rub on my body to get dry.
I am using a piece of equipment that shoots hot air, to dry my hair.
I am covering my body in different pieces of cloth.
They feel warm against my skin.
(closer to the meeting)
I am walking towards a car.
I am opening the car and sitting in it.
The person who I am with is making the car move.
I am just sitting in a car that’s moving.
The car is slowing down.
I am sitting in a stationary car.
I am using my hand to open the car door, to step out.
I am using my legs to walk up a path.
I am looking at a building.
I am opening a door.
I am sitting in a chair.
I am waiting to meet some people.
And so forth.
When it’s typed out like that, you might think “Christ that seems like a l o t of work and steps just to get to one meeting. And I actually slowed things down even m o r e on that day.
But the state I was in, having hardly left the house for a year, it w o r k e d . It got me to that meeting, which m a d e me set a date to go back to work. I don’t think I could have done it without using that technique. In my case, it stopped me jumping from waking up in the morning, to then thinking a split second later, ‘I’ve lost my job’. It stopped me catastrophysing the situation.
So how about you my lovelies?
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